Anyone besides me having problems with the whole "servanthood" thing?

Verdict...

How do people manage not to judge? Not to compare?

I know what judging means. "to criticize or condemn somebody on moral grounds"
How do we manage not to do this, without seeming like you don't care about the situation...Lets say, we have a girl that knows her best friend is in a abusive relationship. She hates the guy for doing that to her friend. She can tell her friend, but it's up to the girl to leave him. And she doesn't. So now she's upset with her friend too. She's judged them both. How is she supposed to feel? If she's a Christian and knows not to judge one another does she say oh well that's too bad? That doesn't sound like someone who cares. So what does she do?.

Compare:"to be equal or similar in quality or standing, especially to be as good as another"
I find myself in so many situations when something as gone right for someone and I think that's so great....And then the feeling creeps in, why can't that happen for me? I feel the same, I do the same things, why didn't it work out..And then the jealousy. It only takes a minute for that to happen. And then your stuck with it. Its hard to get out of jealousy. As much as you think your happy for them, you in a way resent that it didn't happen to you. So, last question, how do you get yourself outta that one?